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If you had been
there, last Friday, what would you have retorted?
At my Friday morning
Free Fall writing group, Judy told us a woman at her swimming pool fitness
class objected to the instructor saying, “…you
guys…”
I retorted, “Take
her aside, and tell her the history of feminism.” That’s all I felt I had time
to say. Otherwise, I could have added, “If she twists the word “guys” to mean males only, then she is twisting
apart the good work of feminists. She’s grabbing the wheel of progress, and pulling
it backwards.”
I wish I could
tell you that when we strain at the ropes and pulleys of progress, there is a ratchet
clicking in, making sure that “equal rights” do not go backwards. But I can’t, for
that’s not the case. There are forces opposed, people opposed, pulling us back.
Case in point: I
can remember, back during the same years as the women’s liberation movement,
when words like “homosexual” and “lesbian” were dirty, fearful things to say. A
gay woman asked me to say, instead, “gay,” as being a nicer word without
stigma. We were then entering a world of gay rights and phrases like “in the
closet.” But there were opposing forces, and today the bigots, when they don’t
say homosexual, will snarl “gay” with a degree of hatred once reserved for
“homosexual.” Idealists had hoped the 21st century would mean
equality and tolerance. Instead, teenagers have taken to saying, “gay” the way
we used to say “gimp” or “that’s lame,” by saying “that’s so gay.” The pulley
has no ratchet.
These adolescents,
on the brink of full adulthood, using “gay” as a term of disparagement are perhaps,
possibly, the same ones who say “I don’t believe in equal rights” and “I am not
a feminist” and “don’t say “you guys.”” Back in 1977, mercifully, idealists
could not foresee that such an un-liberated, unequal, unimproved world would
still be with us in 2017. To know this wimpy dark future, back then, would have
punctured our hearts and deflated us. …just when we needed all the energy we
could summon for our uphill climb.
I was born in the un-liberated
1950’s. It’s still my favorite decade, but I wouldn’t want to live there. New
labor saving appliances were
appearing in our homes… and in response? We just labored more. Every housewife was to be her own Martha Stewart. This was
normal to us, the only culture we knew. How could any well-adjusted sensible
person possibly say our surrounding culture was wrong? Maybe artists knew
better, maybe, but not the rest of us. We were happy to be normal.
When the 1960’s
came along, when there was new affluence and all sorts of new action groups for
change… that was a time when the young longhaired males were the leaders, and
the young women fetched the coffee—always. In the 1970s, though, things slowly changed,
as some groups of women began meeting in circles, without a leader, involved in
something new under the sun: Consciousness
Raising. And that’s a phrase that young people of today don’t know.
What is “consciousness”
you ask? Put it this way: Take your space-and-time machine to the U.S. south
east, to the year 1965. If you are white like me, step out of your machine and
ask around. All the self-described “Negroes” are conscious that something is
very wrong. But many of the white Americans are saying, “Our Negroes are happy,
the only problem is these dam “outside agitators” coming in and stirring them
up.” An entire society of white liars? Not exactly. Rather, it’s as if the
whites live in a separate society, one with a lower consciousness. Maybe not the artists, not comedians like
Lenny Bruce or George Carlin, but the others? Sure. Even white church leaders
thought this way.
It remained for
Reverend Martin Luther King, Jr., writing in 1963 to some clergymen while he was imprisoned in
Birmingham jail, to explain that no one in the United States could be called an
“outsider” any more: When the bell tolls, it tolls for us all. King challenged
them to take action, saying, “…human progress never rolls in on wheels of
inevitability”.
Can any church or community
leader believe in equal rights if he is male, white and filthy rich? Yes he can.
Canada’s Prime Minister Justin Trudeau made half of his cabinet female; he responded
to a question about this action by saying, “Because it’s 2016.” He said this
because forces were still opposed.
There are consequences to having
your consciousness raised or lowered. Case in point: It will be a long time
before U.S. citizens forget the court case of Roe versus Wade, making abortion legal. This case allowed a change
of actions, allowing a change of views, and causing, of course, a change of
consciousness.
Important to
feminism is the case of Brown versus
Board of Education. Brown was a young idealistic parent who said his Negro
children should be allowed an education equal to whites: In other words, be
allowed the freedom to sit in white classrooms, so as to get an equal education.
At the time, some whites presumably said it was good for Blacks to have their
own separate schools, because those all-Black elementary and secondary schools offered
an equally good education. Needless to say, this view was false. The Black
schools, in the words of the whites, were “separate but equal.”
A phrase that might,
depending on the consciousness level, be well-intentioned or sinister. My view?
Sinister. How so? The U.S. Supreme Court ruled in May, 1954 that the schools
had to racially integrate, to change, but NOT change “as fast as humanly possible.”
Instead, change “with all deliberate speed.” Regardless of the ideal, in
practice this meant change that was slow, glacially slow. Meaning: A child born
the year the court ruled could grow, start grade one, go one to finish her final
year of high school, if she got that far, and still not attend a half decent school
with whites. The forces of opposition were with us then, and are with us today.
If you wish women
to be separate but equal, then don’t use gender inclusive words like
“guys.”
Maybe the first women’s
libbers were wiser than they knew. Instead of separate names for the genders
but with theoretically equal rights, that is to say, a firewoman beside a
fireman, a policewomen beside a policeman, a flight stewardess beside a flight
steward… the feminists called for the language of true and beautiful
integration: firefighters, police constables and flight attendants. Today, and
for the past few years, in the newspapers I have read of an ongoing effort, well
before President Donald Trump got into office, to overturn Roe versus Wade. The feminists were entirely correct to get in their
gender inclusive language, before any counter reaction could set in, as I’m
sure all you guys could agree.
If I have mentioned women, gays, Blacks and rich straight
males all in the same essay, then it’s partly
because we can all learn from each other. Our learning is our strength.
My Friday morning
writing group includes our fearless leader, Judy. She is a “flight attendant.” Forget
separate. Our group represents all the standard socio-economic classes. Forget
classism. Come to think of it, “sexism” is another word young people of today
don’t know.
I’m an artist, but
specifically I’m a writer, for my medium is language. I can point to George Orwell’s
novel Nineteen Eighty-four to show
how, in words woven far better than I ever could, as E.L. Doctorow points out: There can be a diminishment of thought
through constriction of language. Call it a deletion of thought, a deletion
of thought-cells in the brain, as constricted blood vessels have led to cells dying. To me, deleting a one-syllable nice
gender-inclusive word like “guys” is a diminishment. Every word’s death
diminishes me.
I’m still not sure
what I could have said Friday morning, or what Judy could have said to that
woman in the pool.
But I do know
another good word to delete if you wish the fairer sex to be “separate but
equal”: Would you prefer women—but not men—separated out into married and
unmarried? If so, you will be cheerful to know I overheard two alert high
school girls asking each other what “Ms.” means. They didn’t know. That’s a
fact. Call it another act of diminishment, as the bell tolls, for all you guys.
Sean Crawford
Calgary
March
2017
Two Pieces of Classic Writing:
Today we look out
the window to ask, “Where is the ambulance stopping?” Our ancestors, when the
bell tolled, would ask, “Who died?”
Here’s an old poem
in the public domain, one I’ve half memorized, by John Donne (Dunn) entitled For Whom the Bell Tolls
No man is an island,
Entire of itself,
Every man is a piece of the
continent,
A part of the main.
If a clod be washed away by the
sea,
Europe is the less.
As well as if a promontory were.
As well as if a manor of thy
friend's
Or of thine own were:
Any man's death diminishes me,
Because I am involved in mankind,
And therefore never send to know
for whom the bell tolls;
It tolls for thee.
This poem is
referenced in what I regard as being one of the greatest documents of my
lifetime, a beautiful piece of rhetoric, written on scraps of paper, Letter From Birmingham Jail by Martin
Luther King, Junior. 1963. Here’s the link.
https://web.cn.edu/kwheeler/documents/Letter_Birmingham_Jail.pdf